Love is like pi — infinite but non-repeating.
Once someone falls out of love, no matter how much you beg, they are unlikely to come back. Emotions are difficult to express with words. People naturally seek novelty, and it’s possible that today he loves you, but tomorrow he might fall for someone else.
When faced with such situations, all you can do is accept it. Complaining about your partner won’t change the outcome. What you should focus on is holding onto his heart while it’s still yours, ensuring he stays with you forever.
Love can’t always be understood by logic, but here are three things you can do to keep a man’s heart:
1. Don’t Be the First to Act
A truly wise woman never takes the initiative; she lets the man pursue her.
When you’re the one always initiating, you lose the power of choice. You give your all, but a simple “sorry” from him could undo everything you’ve done.
Some hurts are like a deep cut on your foot; every step causes excruciating pain. Once the damage is done, it’s hard to make him love you again, and you can’t force it.
In these situations, try the strategy of “playing hard to get.” Even though you care about him, don’t show it too openly. Let him come to you, initiate contact, and treat you well.
Once he pursues you, the relationship will gradually grow deeper. Through this process, he’ll begin to recognize the importance of the relationship.
Everyone understands the exhaustion that comes from always being the one to initiate. It’s a common truth: too much effort on one side will tire both people out.
2. Don’t Try to Please Him
In relationships, it’s important to remember that if a man truly loves you, he will continue to love you even without you constantly trying to please him.
However, if he doesn’t love you, no amount of pleasing will change his feelings.
Instead, focus on being yourself. When you concentrate on your own goals and growth, everything you desire will come naturally.
People are curious creatures — the more you chase something, the further it seems to slip away. When you stop focusing on one thing and start doing other things, that’s when you’ll find it comes to you.
To keep a man’s heart, you must stop trying to please him. Have your own career, your own space. Only then will you become the kind of woman he admires.
3. Don’t Over-Contact
By “don’t contact him too much,” I mean that you should avoid forcing yourself to reach out to him constantly. Keep the frequency of communication balanced.
Anything in excess can become annoying. If you contact him too often, he may no longer admire you; instead, he may become frustrated.
To keep a man’s heart, find the right balance. Wait for him to contact you first, and then occasionally reach out to show that you still care. Let him feel that there’s hope.
If you are too cold and distant, you risk pushing him away. Remember, too much of anything can backfire — balance is key.
Love has a magical power. When you fall for someone, it can easily make you do things you wouldn’t normally do. Just seeing him can make you willing to do anything for him.
But no matter how much you love him, always remember these three principles: don’t initiate, don’t please, and don’t over-contact.
If you can master these three things, you’ve already succeeded in a big way.
When love comes, cherish it. When love fades, accept it with grace. This is the best way to handle a relationship that has run its course.